Fear and Ego…

Aimee Angelique Fear and Ego Blog Post

Fear and Ego… (My Thoughts and Musings).

Are you letting Fear hold you back?
Is your ego running the show?

I have been thinking and journaling quite a bit about fear and the ego lately. It’s something that I have allowed to control my life for many years.. If I break my life up into chunks I can certainly see a pattern and where I have allowed my ego to run the show…

Something in recent years I have been wanting to create but have continued to allow fear to scare me is I have wanted to  film yoga videos. I have kept having the desire to create and bring to life this project but have continued to let my ego hold me back..

  • Fear of what others might think (other yoga teachers in particular).
  • Fear of what I will think of myself.
  • Fear that it won’t be good enough.
  • Fear that I will do it wrong.
  • Fear that I will do a bad job.
  • Fear of judgment and criticism.

My ego has been totally running the show… she has been holding me back and deliberately trying to keep me “small”..  Last week I completely stepped outside my comfort zone and started to film this new project that has been calling me for some time now..  Ever since I started teaching yoga I have had my students asking me for yoga videos so they can also practice yoga at home… I kept making excuses like “I wasn’t a good enough teacher to film videos” I have also been so fearful putting myself out the for others to judge and criticise me as a teacher, a student, as a person and as a woman…

This voice inside kept saying “you need to loose weight first so you can look like a really fit and toned yoga teacher like all the other yoga teachers on Instagram… You need to wait for your skin to clear up so you look flawless.. You need to wait till you’ve done more teacher training… You need to wait till you find the perfect person to work with”… and the list goes on and on and on…

I want to share this with you because I want you to try and give you an understanding of the “ego”… she is very tricky and she tries to hold you back… and even after doing continuous work on myself for over 12 years (yoga, energy healing, holistic health etc etc) my ego still shows up constantly!

**Spoiler alert** You will always have an ego..those nasty voices in your head… and your ego will always be there to test you! (Unless you are completely “enlightened” which I can assure you I am not there yet! It’s all part of the journey my beautiful friend…) It’s just about learning how to stop buying into her nasty stories and words… it’s about leaning to turn down the volume on her… I use things like positive affirmations and mantras to combat her nasty words… I have learnt how to not buy into the stories and come back to love… and believe me it takes work… and I am not perfect… I need to practice self love and self care daily so I don’t allow my ego to take over and run the show…

In the lead up to filming the videos… things didn’t go according to plan and my ego kept trying to test me and make me fall back into the fearful trap and cancel the day of filming/the whole creative project… I wasn’t feeling great about myself.. I was feeling tried, exhausted and a little overweight… my home yoga practice has been terrible… I sprained my shoulder a couple of weeks ago (and still healing)… I ran out of my make up and the new make up I ordered didn’t arrive in time… I couldn’t find new pants/an new outfit that I wanted to wear that made me feel amazing… my skin broke out (probably because of stress & hormones)… I was feeling bloated… it was raining on the day and my extremely curly hair went frizzy (girls with curls will understand!) and the triggers and fearful thoughts kept coming and coming…  All of these things may sound like “first world problems” and they are but these are the kind of triggers your ego will use to try an get you to live from fear and hold you back… so we need to use our self love and self care tools to try and combat her nasty ways…

Fear and Ego try desperately to keep us in our comfort zone but when we make the decision to bravely step outside our comfort zone this is where the real magic happens… we are more open to learn about ourself, we welcome new experiences and doors start to open.

I would love to now invite you to do a little exercise… I’d love you to start to think, ponder and journal about what fearful thoughts you are currently having and what are you allowing the ego to hold you back from?

Here are some thoughts to get you started:

  • What is your fear/ego holding you back from?
  • Starting a new job/career?
  • A new partner? (Starting or ending a relationship).
  • Healing yourself?
  • Your health?
  • Self love/self acceptance?

Please remember everyone is different and we all have different triggers but let me tell you beautiful woman it is so powerful to know your personal triggers so you can then find and create ways (and tools) to break pattens or bring awareness to when the patterns are playing out and to then take control and no longer feel trapped by your fear and ego…

As always thank you for being here and sharing this journey with me. It is an honour to share these thoughts with you…

Much love Aimee X

P.S Here is a little sneak peek at my new video series coming soon! “The Breathe Dream Create Love: Home Yoga Practice.”

My ‘perfect’ morning routine

My 'Perfect' Morning RoutineNamaste Beautiful!

So, you might have noticed the word perfect is in quotation marks. Why? Because I’m most certainly not perfect. And lets be honest here, not every morning goes perfectly. In fact, some days it all goes upside down, pear shaped and is the very definition of ‘cray cray’! The reality is, I’m a Mum to two beautiful little souls that sometimes wake up on the wrong side of the cot and from the minute their tiny feet hit the floor, #mumlife has well and truly started. I’m also a partner to an amazing man who works hard for us, meaning I’m often single-handedly wrangling the babes in the morning, all whilst trying to find my yogi centre!

At the end of the day, all of us are finding our way and are perfectly imperfect. That said, a solid morning routine helps focus your day; assists in creating good, healthy habits and sets you up to be more productive, happier & more grounded. The best advice I have is to find the non-negotiables; the things you HAVE to do to be able to get through the day. Other things on your list can be a little more fluid – on a good day, they’re part of your ‘perfect’ morning routine. But if time and life doesn’t permit, let them go and try to find the time somewhere else in the day. If you don’t get back to those fluid items, that’s ok – that’s why they’re fluid!

So, grab your pen and paper. Gather your thoughts and think about your ‘perfect’ morning routine. Jot them down and consciously make an effort over the next week to achieve as many as you can, each morning. See how you feel at the end of the week. What works? What doesn’t? From there, find the non-negotiables, identify the fluid items & do your best. Don’t beat yourself up if you’re not getting the ‘perfect’ routine nailed each day. Check back in with me next week – I’d love to hear from you on how things went. Pop your comments below or connect on Facebook, I’d love to chat!

Now, on a good day, here’s what my perfect routine looks like:

  1. Connect & Breathe: As soon as I wake, I try to connect in with the Universe. I will say a little prayer and set an intention for the day and have some conscious deep breaths. If this doesn’t happen due to #mumlife 😉 I will try and do it in the shower.
  1. Dry Body Brush: Before popping in the shower, if time permits, I like to indulge in some Dry Body Brushing. If you haven’t heard of it, you’re in for a treat. Body brushing has some amazing benefits including opening up pores and releasing toxins; softens fat deposits below the skin including mucus and cellulite and helps discharge these up to the skins surface; relieves stress through the meditative action of body brushing the skin in a rhythmic motion; promotes circulation; activates the lymphatic system when taking the time to body brush the underarms and groin areas; helps foster and nurture your loving relationship with your self and your body in practicing this act of self-love; helps release muscle tension and energises the system in the morning, relaxes at night.
  1. Tongue scrap: Now this one often gets a raised eyebrow or two; Tongue scrapping. Yep it’s a thing. But before you think I’ve officially entered in to some weird dental practices, you should know that tongue scrapping helps remove bacteria which causes bad breath; it also removes the toxic mucus on your tongue which can block your taste buds! That’s right, food will taste better! It also helps boost your immunity by removing toxins; is good oral hygiene practice and helps improve digestive health. I’ll soon be following up on this ancient practice with a more in-depth look at Tongue Scrapping and what you need to get started.
  1. Shower: Taking a shower isn’t a huge deal, right? Taking a shower without interruptions is! #mumlife 😉 I tend to do a lot of thinking and soul searching in the shower so find this is a great time to reconnect with myself, my goals & intentions. I also may say a little prayer and practice my deep breaths if I didn’t get a chance when I first woke up. Once a week, time permitting, I also indulge in a beautiful body scrub. Physically, this body scrub invigorates my body by ridding it of dry skin but emotionally, it is a chance for me to re-connect with my body and appreciate all its beauty and imperfections.
  1. Skincare: After my shower, my skin is beautifully clean, light and damp. Itake this time to focus on my face by cleansing and toning with an essential oil spritz. I then apply an organic and natural moisturiser to clean and nourish my skin. Wherever possible, I really seek out organic and cruelty free products for my skin; our skin is our largest organ so its extremely important to be mindful of what it is we are applying to our skin and what is being ingested to our blood stream and internal organs through our skin. Shortly I will share another post with my recommended skin care products!
  1. Aromatically dress myself: I charge my body both emotionally and energetically with an “aromatic dressing” – this is a whole body self-massage using carefully selected essential oils, mixed in with coconut oil. Many essential oils are safe to be applied to the skin. To start, I intuitively choose between 1 to 3 oils and dilute with fractionated coconut oil. The recommend dilution ratios for adults are generally 5 drops of essential oils to 10ml of carrier oil. For example, try 2 drops of Frankincense, 2 drops of Ylang Ylang and 1 drop of lavender. So good!!!
  1. Drink Apple Cider Vinegar: To warm up and give the ‘insides’ a nice clean start to the day, I drink 250ml of warm filtered water with a spoonful of organic Apple Cider Vinegar. It’s a strong, unusual taste but something you very quickly get used to. Apple Cider Vinegar has many benefits – a quick google search will tell you ACV (as the cool kids call it) is one handy bottle to have stashed in the pantry.
  1. Take my Superfood Supplements: No matter how clean or healthy your diet, it’s my personal belief your body can always benefit from additional supplements. Modern life and diet takes it toll on our bods and even though I try to be mindful of the food I eat, I’m human and I have my little weaknesses. To help fend off any nasties and make up for anything I might be missing in my diet, I take my Superfood Supplements each morning.
  1. Breakfast: Breakfast is a biggie! For me, this is most definitely one of my non-negotiables. If I don’t get a decent breakfast by a decent time, my family is facing one #hangry Mumma. In the warmer months, I’ll generally start my day with a superfood smoothie (check back soon for some great Superfood Smoothie recipes). In the winter months, I’ll keep it pretty simple with some sourdough toast with fresh avocado and Himalayan salt sprinkled on top. A quick chai tea with breakfast means I’m having a good day.
  1. Yoga and meditation: If time, energy and children permit, I also try to add some yoga and meditation to my morning routine. Honestly though, squeezing this in is very challenging and a constant reminder to myself that each day is a matter of juggling my priorities! If I can though, I like to add in a quick meditation in the backyard by grounding my bare feet in to the earth and sitting down and quietly connecting with my breath and the earth.

If I manage to get all 10 of these things done, I seriously feel like a million dollars. I feel like supermum / superwoman / superyogi. It’s a rare thing to get all 10 done, but again, its all about being fluid, going with the flow & sticking with the non-negotiables, with anything else a nice big bonus in my day.

With the warmer days approaching, its my personal goal to bring back either a walk or jog back into my morning practice. What’s your personal goal? Let me know below!

Big love my beautiful tribe, Aimee X

My 5 Favourite Yoga Twists to Detox the Body

 With Spring breaking through the Winter dreariness, so many of my Yoga students have told me they are raring to get back in to a more regular and structured routine. My best advice to all my students is that your practice doesn’t stop at class. Continuing your practice at home is so important to maintaining and sustaining your health and well-being.

 So, with that said, here are my 5 favourite yoga twists that help to detoxify the body (and you can check out my previous posts here on how and why detoxifying is so important for you!). These poses can easily be done at home and if you feel you need any advice or assistance on these poses and the sequence in which they are practiced, please don’t hesitate to grab Gav or myself at the next class, we’d love to help you!   IMG_6395

~ Half Lord of the Fishes Pose (Seated Spinal Twist)

  • Sit on the floor with your legs straight out in front of you. You may like to support your bottom with a booster or a folded blanket.
  • Bend your knees and place both your feet on the floor.
  • Slide your left foot under your right leg, to the outside of your right hip.
  • Lay the outside of the left leg on the floor. Step the right foot over the left leg and stand it on the floor outside your left hip. Your right knee will point directly up to the sky.
  • Exhale and slowly and gently twist toward the inside of the right thigh. Take your right hand and press it against the floor. This should be just behind the right side of your bottom. Then set your left upper arm on the outside of your right thigh near the knee. Pull your front torso and inner right thigh together so they are nice and snug.
  • Actively and consciously, press your inner right foot in to the floor, release the right groin, and lengthen the front torso. Lean the upper torso back slightly, against the shoulder blades, and continue to lengthen your tailbone in to the floor.
  • In this pose, you have two options. You can turn your head to either the left OR the right. You should continue twisting your torso by turning to the right, or you might even like to counter the twist by turning your torso to the left and looking over your left shoulder, at your right foot.
  • Each time you inhale, lift a little more through the sternum. You may like to push your fingers against the floor to help. With every exhalation, twist a little further and deeper.

 ** Notes: Breathe through your poses! You should start slowly, but aim to hold the pose for between 30 seconds to 1 minute; release from the pose by exhaling. Return to the start position and repeat on the opposite side. IMG_6394

~ Adho Mukha Svanasana (Downward-facing Dog) with revolved twist

  • Commence this pose on your hands and knees, taking care to align your wrists directly under your shoulders and your knees directly under your hips. Ensure that the fold of your wrists is running parallel with the top edge of your yoga mat. Also take care that you are pointing your middle fingers directly to the top edge of your mat.
  • Stretch out your elbows, taking care to release and relax your upper back.
  • Press and distribute your weight firmly through your palms and knuckles, spreading your fingers nice and wide. Take care to ensure that you have an even distribution of your weight across both hands.
  • Now, exhale your breath as you tuck your toes and lift your knees off the floor, in one nice fluid movement.
  • Reach your pelvis up toward the sky and then draw your sit bones toward the wall behind you.
  • Gently begin to straighten your legs, but focus on not ‘locking’ your knees.
  • Bring your body into the shape of an “A” (for Aimee! Ha!)
  • Conjure images of your hips and thighs being pulled backwards from the top of your thighs. Now remember that A! We don’t need to walk the hands and feet closer together, we want to keep that nice A shape and see the extension through your whole body. This my yogi friends is Downward-Facing Dog.
  • Inhaling, lift your left hand and reach it beneath your torso and around to your right thigh. Allow your torso and waist to twist open to the right. This move has two variations:
    • Advanced: Work toward placing your left hand on the ground to the outside of your right foot.
    • Beginner: Rest your hand on the outside of your right leg’s shin or upper thigh.
  • Turn your head to look underneath your right arm. Keep your gaze soft.
    • Advanced move: If you have no neck pain, gaze up at the sky.
  • Hold this pose for 5-10 breaths.
  • To release from the pose, inhale your breath as you un-twist and return your left hand to the mat.
  • Come back into Downward-Facing Dog.
  • Repeat the pose on the other side for the same amount of time, before finally returning to Downward-Facing Dog again. 

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~ Revolved Lunge Pose

  • Start in Lunge Pose with your right leg facing forward. Now, bring your palms together and place at your heart center. With your left knee lifted, push your left heel back and reach the crown of your head forwards to lengthen your side body and your spine.
  • Take a nice deep breath and as you begin to exhale, twist towards your right leg. Keeping your palms together, place your left tricep on your right thigh, attempting to get the torso as close to your leg as possible (but remembering to practice within your limits!)
  • To engage your arms, push your palms together and try to twist in deeper, sending your chest in the direction of the sky and shifting your gaze upwards and over your right shoulder.
  • Now, there are choices:
    • Stay here; OR
    • Extend your left fingertips down to the ground on the outside of your right leg, and reach your right fingertips up to the sky.
    • Stay here for up to 60 seconds.
  • To exit, unwind from the pose, placing your hands down on the mat. Step back to Downward Facing Dog Pose.
  • Repeat with the left leg forwards. 

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~ Revolved Chair Pose

  • Commence in Mountain Pose. Stand with your feet together, with your big toes touching. Beginners may like to stand with their feet a hip-distance apart.
  • Inhale and raise your arms above your head, at a 90 degree angle to the floor.
  • As you bend your knees, exhale and bring your thighs as parallel to the floor as you are able. Your knees will project out slightly over your feet and your torso will form a right angle over your thighs. We know this as Chair Pose.
  • Now, lowering your arms and bring your palms together at your heart centre.
  • Slowly exhaling, twist your torso to the right. Bring your left elbow to the outside of your right thigh.
  • Carefully shift your left hip back slightly, squaring off your hips. Bring your knees in to alignment.
  • Press your upper left arm against your thigh, bringing your right shoulder blade into your back to turn your chest to the right.
    • For a more advanced move, extend both of your arms, reaching your right fingertips to the ceiling and your left fingertips to the mat. You can also place your left hand on a block for assistance.
  • Turn your gaze to the ceiling. If you have your arms extended outwards, you may wish to focus your gaze at your top thumb.
  • Bring your hips down even lower. Lengthen your spine even further on your inhalations and twist even deeper on your exhalations. Stack your top shoulder above your bottom shoulder. Draw your thumbs to your heart, and your heart toward your thumbs.
  • Focus on ensuring you have balanced your weight in your heels, keeping your feet pressing firmly together.
  • Hold the pose for up to 60 seconds. Inhale as you return to your center, reaching both arms overhead in Chair Pose.
  • Straighten your legs, lifting through your arms. Exhale to release back to Mountain Pose.
  • Repeat on the other side.

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~ Revolved Abdomen Pose

  • To commence this pose, lie on your back with your knees bent and your feet flat on the floor. You can rest your head on a pillow or blanket.
  • Bring your knees to your chest and wrap your arms around them.
  • Extend your arms out along the floor at shoulder-height with your palms facing down. Straighten your legs, reaching your heels up toward the ceiling. Align your heels directly over your hips. Keep your knees soft and slightly bent.
  • Draw your low back down, so it is flat on the floor. On an exhalation, lower your legs to the right, twisting your spine and allowing your left hip to lift all the way off the floor. Allow the force of gravity to drop your legs all the way down. Allow your right foot to rest on the floor.
  • Stack the outer edge of your left ankle on top of your right.
  • Work toward bringing your torso and legs into a 90-degree angle, or slightly less. If your legs are angled up toward your right shoulder, you can clasp your left foot’s toes with your right hand’s fingers.
  • Turn your head to the left, bringing your gaze toward your left hand’s fingertips. Keep your shoulder blades pressing down toward the floor and making a conscious effort to keep those shoulders away from your ears.
  • Hold the pose for 10-25 breaths. On an inhalation, slowly come back to your center. Raise your feet straight up to the ceiling. Bend your knees and hug them to your chest.
  • On an exhalation, reach your heels up to the ceiling again.
  • Repeat the above on the opposite side.
  • When you’re finished with the pose, hug your knees to your chest for a few breaths, slowly exhaling and bringing your knees to your chest. Slowly exhale your breath as you extend your legs flat along the floor.